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Some people love hosting guests in their home. (They even specifically seek a house or apartment with a spare bedroom for such a purpose.) Some of us, however, hate the idea of opening up our homes to overnight guests—but it can be difficult to be honest about this. There’s a certain amount of societal pressure behind the expectation that friends and family should be able to crash at your place whenever they visit.

If you want to stop the cycle of annoying—and frequently selfish—people using your bathroom all the time, here’s what you need to do.

Skip the spare

One of the main reasons people want to stay at your house is probably because it’s a comfortable option. We all instinctively want to make guests feel comfortable, even if we don’t want them in the first place, and having a dedicated space for them can send the impression that you do, in fact, want them.

Thus, the most important thing you can do to discourage houseguests is to turn your home into an unwelcoming space for them. Convert your spare bedroom into an office or exercise room. Replace your sleeper-sofa with a non-sleeper model. Get rid of anything designed for the benefit of guests. If you don’t really have a place for folks to stay, it’s easier to say that when people try to invite themselves over. Your most determined guests will insist they can make it work, but by removing the easy accommodations, you’ll discourage the bulk of your guests.

Don’t be a hypocrite

If you’re going to refuse to host overnight guests in your home, you should practice what you preach. It might seem perfectly fair to accept other people’s hospitality—they’re adults, and they can choose to host you if they want! But like it or not, this creates a bit of social debt. You’ll be expected to return the favor, and no amount of logical argument concerning our respective freedom to make our own decisions about the use of our property will make you seem like less of a hypocrite. Stay in hotels when you visit people, just like you want them to do when they visit you.

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