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Emotional intelligence is important, but the unbridled enthusiasm has obscured a dark side. New evidence shows that when people hone their emotional skills, they become better at manipulating others. When you’re good at controlling your own emotions, you can disguise your true feelings. When you know what others are feeling, you can tug at their heartstrings and motivate them to act against their own best interests.

via The Dark Side of Emotional Intelligence – Adam Grant – The Atlantic.

I’m an advocate for emotional intelligence.  I think emotional intelligence boils down to, don’t trust your emotions, they can betray you.  Learning to recognize when you’re having an emotional response is important.  When you do, you’ll be able to manage your own emotions and your responses to them.

Of course, having this ability also means, if you’re unscrupulous, that you’ll be able to manipulate people who aren’t very emotionally intelligent…

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